A woman has been diagnosed with terminal cancer after a complaint of back pain
A 57-year-old woman has said she doesn’t have long to live after being diagnosed with terminal cancer after complaining of back pain. Tara Ellis received the devastating diagnosis two weeks after being admitted to Royal Bolton Hospital in an ambulance.
Tara suffered from severe back pain but had no idea when consultants drew the curtains around her bed last August, exactly what she was about to hear, reports Men. “They told me they were so sorry, but I had inoperable pancreatic cancer,” she says, admitting “I didn’t even know where it was.”
I asked them “What about my dog and my hair?” I have always kept myself beautiful. She says she wraps her dog – an eight-year-old cross between a miniature schnauzer and a terrier – “in cotton wool” and immediately thought of him.
Immediate phone calls to family and friends were shocked and devastated. In a brutal moment, Tara was given a definite end point to her life – and it was only a matter of months.
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Tara reflects on how the news has changed the dynamics of her relationships. “It’s a lonely thing, it’s cancer. The friends you think will be there for you — they quickly fade away and change,” she says. And yet she says her illness has strengthened and healed the rifts in the relationship with her daughter Abigail, 38, who she says cares for her.
“She’s amazing,” Tara says. “She’s like, ‘Calm down mum and breathe.’ Abigail herself just says, ‘It’s hard because she’s your mum. My world just changed in seconds.”
Determined and still full of life, Tara, who also has a son Lewis, 25, had a late son Daniel, who died aged 30, and has a granddaughter, Tiana, 18, who is battling the illness with humor and positivity but says there were days so dark she didn’t know how to get out of them.
“It puts you in a daze. You’re alone in a dark room and you’re looking for the light,” she says. “You don’t know how to find that light because you don’t know how to deal with cancer yourself. You’re looking for little doors to open.”
Brave Tara describes the twelve eight-hour chemotherapy sessions she endured to extend her remaining time as “brutal”. . He came back.” She says she and those close to her were “dancing” when told her cancer had shrunk, but their happiness was cut short when it then spread to her lungs, liver and his stomach.
Tara says she wants to raise awareness about invisible diseases, saying she was judged for walking slowly through railroad crossings and for using handicapped parking spaces. “In theory, I could wear makeup and put on my jeans and no one would know I was sick,” she explains. “I think people need to be aware that if a disease isn’t visual, it shouldn’t be judged.” She also wants to raise awareness of the condition and urges people with back pain to get checked out.
Tara has also raised £6,500 via a Just Giving page for the Royal Bolton Hospital and says: “They are like family, I love them to pieces. They are so supportive and are there for you 24/7 on 7. The support you get is amazing.” On 9th July there will be another fundraising charity car wash next to the BP petrol garage on Manchester Road in Westhinkton.
Now Tara says she has maybe six months left or maybe a little more or less. She wants to spend her last days making short visits with her partner and family, spending time in a mobile home and visiting new places.
Humorously, she said: “Of course, if you can arrange for me to meet Ronaldo, I would be happy.” But on a serious and sobering note, Tara added, “It’s important to me that I live my life – I have to hold on to the days I have left.”